In the process of adoption, it’s easy to feel powerless. In fact, you probably should…because you are.
Your timeline, your future plans, your finances, your heart—including your potential future child—are all on the line. All the details are out of your control, and nothing is guaranteed. Even though this is the case for all of life, us hopeful adoptive parents certainly get a heightened dose of awareness of this fact. It is by far the most difficult process of surrender I’ve ever experienced, and I don’t think it’s just because I’m a bit of a control-freak!
When a woman calls our office inquiring about placing her child for adoption, it seems every story they share is different. Each woman seems to have a different idea about what kind of family they seek for their child, how much they want to be involved with the adoptive family and even how she sees the relationship developing in the future. Each birth mother approaches her plan to place her child for adoption in different ways. Our goal on the other end of the phone, is for a mom to feel listened to, validated and never judged. We are not here to judge, and we make that very clear to any mom we speak with. We do not know what is right for a birth mother and we would never pretend we do!
Read MoreAdoptive parents come from a road of infertility, pregnancy loss, and a series of other circumstances that have lead them to adoption as a way to grow their families. Birth parents walk a similar road of hurt and loss, but it comes from another direction. When an adoption plan is created for an unborn child, these two sides meet in the middle and things often come together like two puzzle pieces.
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Read MoreI have worked with so many birth moms that knew they wanted to make an open adoption plan but were unsure exactly what that would look like. I have seen birth mothers and adoptive parents unsure of how things would work out yet stepped into this thing called open adoption with the best and most sincere intentions.
Read MoreSo many women ask us about open adoption when they contact us. There really is so much to be said regarding openness in an adoption. I will share with you some of my experiences after working with hundreds of birth mothers and adoptive parents.
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